Comments on: Shifting Tech Talk Toward the Feminine

By: Sunil Bajpai

Sunil Bajpai — Tue, 19 Apr 2005 04:18:41 +0000

Yes, and it appears that where I work, women (at least in the higher management) take adversarial positions much the same way as men do.

Could it be that “Yes, but…” is a learnt behaviour?

By: Toe

Toe — Mon, 18 Apr 2005 22:46:58 +0000

I have known about this for a while but knew I couldn’t go because I am having a birthday party - stupidly. Don’t know why I am even “celebrating” it. I am gutted. I have been waiting for this kind of event for a long time. There is so much - so many ideas - that I would liek to share and that I would like to hear about from others. But let’s make sure this is not the last.

Doctoe.

By: Jason Bates

Jason Bates — Mon, 18 Apr 2005 19:14:39 +0000

Oh well.. I live in London, and I’m already busy tomorrow, I’m almost happy that they are full! ;o)

As someone who enjoys both a supportive discussion and a creative argument, there are specific benfits to both!
A friend of mine ran some fairly successful exercises with consulting clients, where following the assertion of the topic being discussed everyone had to start their sentences with

“yes, and….”

whereas for an exercise in argumentative culture maybe everyone would start each sentence off with

“yes, but…”

Working out the situations when it is best to be “yes, but…” and when it is more advantageous to say “yes, and…” seems to be the trick?!

There is such a thing as creative conflict afterall.. Good old Hegel!
Thesis, Antithesis, synthesis.

Regards,

Jason

By: Koan Bremner

Koan Bremner — Mon, 18 Apr 2005 18:01:57 +0000

I only learned about this event today, too (in my case, via the Misbehaving weblog). Since I’m geographically much more conveniently located, I emailed them for a ticket; full up, including the standby list, sadly. Oh well…